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Heal Your Broken Heart – What To Do If He is Being Unfaithful?

28th November, 2010 - Posted by health news - No Comments

They turn away quickly after he captures her eye but you catch the smile as they do. They’re apparently innocent flirting along with the long periods of time that they are both “absent” from the party, are signs of their “crush” progressing which is breaking your heart. He’s your husband – and she is supposed to be your friend. Can you mend your broken heart and forgive him for being unfaithful?

When we find out our partner has been cheating on us, the first emotions we experience are hurt and anger. Is there a way to get passed this, stop the affair and repair your relationship? Is the relationship even worth repairing and are you still in love him are questions you need to ask yourself.

The first thing you need to do if you want to repair your relationship is put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself why is he attracted to her. Is he attracted to other women because there is something absent from your relationship? By taking the relationship for granted or allowing it to go stale is the fault of both parties and is usually the reasons if one of the partners cheats. You still need to make your partner feel special even if you’ve been together for a long time. The relationship can’t grow and be successful if it is not maintained or worked at.

The attention they receive from the opposite sex makes them feel so good it is sometimes is the reason why they cheat. Imagine if after years of being in a relationship and out of the blue some great looking guy is flirting with you. Suddenly you feel a little sexy, maybe a bit naughty, and with a little flirting he has made you feel things that you haven’t felt in a long time.

Now that doesn’t give anyone the excuse to take it further than some innocent flirting. So that means you need to have a heart to heart talk with your partner. You need to ask him what his plans are once you have made it clear to him that you know what is going on. Does she love him and vice versa? Is he still in love with you? Tell him you realize that there are things in the relationship that you need to work on like not taking him for granted.

It will be a rough road if you decide to work it out and are willing to give 100%. If you can, try seeing a marriage counselor, they can act as a mediator so you both can get your feelings out and communicated properly with each other. If you can’t see a counselor then you both have to be respectful when the other is trying to tell you how they feel.

What’s more, you CAN NOT toss the affair back in his face if you decide to forgive him, this is one of the most important things you need to remember. That will not help build your trust up with each other.

If you find that you are having trouble forgiving him and you still cannot trust him, you may have to move on to mend your broken heart.