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Why Are You Still Alone? The Top 3 Reason Why and How to Mend Your Broken Heart

20th November, 2010 - Posted by health news - No Comments

You are wondering why “If I’m so great then why am I still alone on a Friday night trying to heal my broken heart?” when your friends are telling you that you are good-looking, have a great personality, and have so much to offer someone.

Closer than you imagine is what the solution may be if you are ready to be truthful with yourself. Most of the time we walk around in denial, telling ourselves that all the good ones are taken, but you’re still single and you are a good catch, so all the good one aren’t taken!

Reason #1 – You never seem to attract the right people.

Make a list of what you look for in a partner, is your list close to who you are attracted to? My friend, Belle, for instance, is a beautiful girl and has no trouble getting a date, but her relationships never last more then a few months, why? Belle needs that immediate desirability or she will not give the guy an opportunity. That attraction though, has nothing to do with the guy and has everything to do with sexual attraction. How can a long-term relationship be built when it is based on a sexual attraction?

Growing a sexual relationship into a more meaningful one can be done but it truly depends on the couples. Unfortunately for Belle, these guys she is attracted to are not the kind of guys that want to settle down, or are the type that will stay faithful. The guys she dated and her list were very different and this is why she always ends up with a broken heart.

And your list looks like? Does the person you want to be with and the person you are attracted to the same?

Reason #2 – Looking for love in all the wrong places.

My friends are always telling me how tough it is to meet a fantastic guy. When I ask them where they are looking they sheepishly tell me… a bar. I don’t know about you but I haven’t seen a long-term relationship come out of a chance encounter in a bar.

You’d most likely have a better possibility to meet someone at a coffee shop, a bookstore or even a laundromat even though there is a chance that you might meet someone remarkable at a bar. One of my friends met her partner at the bus stop where they struck up a conversation and got to know each other as they were there every day at the same time. They finally went on a date a few weeks later. Getting to know each other on the level as they did at the bus stop would not had happened if they had met at a bar instead.

Meeting Mr. Right could be as easy as hanging out in some of your favorite places, what are they?

Reason #3 – You listen to your friends and not your gut.

The best is all our friends’ want for us and unfortunately it is not always the same that we want for ourselves. I’ll never forget the night my girlfriend introduce her new boyfriend, whom she has been dating for awhile, to her friends.

Her new guy got so drunk and out of control, it was rocky right from the beginning. He kept spilling his drinks, getting louder and louder causing my friend to squirm in her seat. His first impression was not a good one.

“That guy is an idiot and you deserve much better than that!” I told her the next day. Not giving into peer pressure, she continued to see him even though I wasn’t the only one who told her to dump him.

She ignored me and the others and I am so happy she did because he ended up being an absolutely amazing guy! He acted like a complete jerk that night because he had been nervous about meeting all of us so he drank too much.

So do you listen to your friends and dump potentially great guys?

So is the key right in front you for why you are still alone? The changes that you need to make, do you now know? So you are not home alone on a Friday night, wondering to yourself “How can I heal my broken heart?” can you make the necessary changes? By submitting your comments you can let me know if there is another reason or two I may have missed.